You Never Know What’s Around The Corner…

Well, it’s been a while; let me explain why. I’m sure you’ve heard of the story in the Bible when Moses was taking the Israelites on a 40-day hike in the desert, which became 40 years after a few issues that needed intentional adjustments. I have been on a journey to discover my truth, so that I could integrate my unconscious childhood experiences as an adoptee who separated from my birth mother, to mature and be best ready to serve others.

My planned two-week hiatus turned into a two-year process toward continuing my homecoming. My journey took introspection, journal writing, and tears.

I’ve learned it’s true when they say you don’t know what you don’t know. I have experienced more trails and tribulation than I can explain in the brief overview of my time away. I will say that my stance of supporting family preservation is real. I wish my mother might have told my father of her pregnancy, who knows how my life might have been different. I do support the concept of allowing the mother to raise her child when possible. Nothing should interfere with the parent/child relationship. Other observations:

Every parent/child relationship is different
The child’s safety is priority #1
There are times when a broken home cannot be repaired
Every participants involved in the egg fertilization deserves to know about the pregnancy
DNA matters and should become a relevant resource in adoption
A significant number of adoptee’s express disappointment in reunion – once they’re allowed to know who are their birth parents

My shift became clear when I realized how vulnerable the adopted child might be when there’s minimal interest in their identity. For example, when a blended family comes together, there’s a parent that can represent the child’s interest and support the organic elements that make up the child’s character. Once I became aware of the adoptee’s disadvantage, I began gathering tools and skills to facilitate awareness. They are alone with strangers that will take on the parenting responsibility in their life.

My goal, as an adoptee, became my mission to be a resource to adoptive parents in support of the child for which they now hold responsibility. Therefore my mission: coaching adoptive parents to ease the adoptee’s experience, came to fruition. It’s been a journey, and I will be sharing more insight as time moves forward. It has been worth every moment; because I now know my identity and there’s nothing better than the truth.

Prepare and Enrich Assessment

Develop Relationship Skills

Explore strength and growth areas
Strengthen communication skills
Identify and manage major stressors
Resolve conflicts using the Ten Step Model
Develop a more balanced relationship using the Couple and Family Maps
Understand personality differences and maximize teamwork

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Strengths Finders Assessment

Identify your unique talents using Strength's Assessment to pinpoint your top five characteristics.

Develop parenting based strengths to support the adoptee's potential.
Understand how to leverage cognitive thinking to focus the adoptee's strengths, during formative develop stage (up to 9 years of age).
There's no right way to parent. Knowing your strengths can assist you in understanding how to communicate with your adoptee because you'll now have insight to explore their talents.

Strengths Explorer Assessment

Support your adoptee between ages of 10 - 14 to find strengths that resonate with them through Explorer Assessment.

Incorporate your strengths to helping you parent.
Build resilience in the adoptee when innate nature and environmental nurturing experiences are verbalized.
Learn your parenting strategies based on age of child and parenting situations.

I know it’s been a while…

You Never Know What’s Around The Corner…