☎ (925)577-3102        ✉️sharon@coachingtoimpact.com

COACHING TO IMPACT YOUR FAMILY

CHALLENGE | Build a collaborative family unit to be more than the sum of its individual parts.

Coaching to Impact Serves Clients in Three Ways –

 

Get Prepared Through Assessments

Get Prepared Through Workshops

Get Prepared Through Coaching

Pre-Adoptive Parenting

You may be overcoming or addressing:

  • Infertility
  • Medical conditions that prohibit you from carrying a baby to term
  • Fear of passing on genetic disorders, desire to give a loving home to a child
  • Need to help a family member who is not in a position to raise a child
  • Willingness to provide a permanent home, wanting to choose the child’s gender
  • Adopting a stepchild
  • Have a heart for diversity
  • or Following your faith.

There is truth in Bobby Unser’s quote, “Success is where opportunity and preparation meet.”

Are you emotionally prepared to allow another human into your environment?  Well, you are in the right place because there is no right or wrong way to parent.

Ask anyone who has a child biologically or by adoption.

The position of parent does not come with instructions; however, we will utilize resources to gain insight and develop knowledge from others who have made it through the “adoption journey” and learn from their experiences.

Couple’s assumptions about the journey and how the addition of a child will impact the home and connection is paramount.   We challenge the couple’s assumption that a child will bring excitement and fill their home with love without regard for how the change will test our relationships.

Post-Adoptive Families

This offering is for parents who have settled in on their adoption and have developed a routine.  The questions that concern you have regarding your shortcomings.  Many parents don’t seek help because of their fear of one or more of the following:

Can you be investigated?
This fear promoted by the presumption that someone may misunderstand your interaction with your adopted child, even though you know you’re doing everything to the best of your ability.
Can you be accused falsely?
Children have a meltdown and throw tantrums when you least expect it, and it seems, whenever you’re in a public place.  They use words that you would never expect them to remember must less repeat. Inwardly, most parents are afraid of accusations of being the cause of their child’s behavior.
Can you be investigated?
This fear promoted by the presumption that someone may misunderstand your interaction with your adopted child, even though you know you’re doing everything to the best of your ability.
Can you be accused falsely?
Children have a meltdown and throw tantrums when you least expect it, and it seems, whenever you’re in a public place.  They use words that you would never expect them to remember must less repeat. Inwardly, most parents are afraid of accusations of being the cause of their child’s behavior.
Could I lose my child?
If you take the investigation concern one step further, adoptive parents imagine someone will determine you aren’t fit to raise a child and then endure permeate removal from your home.
Could my adoptee love the biological parent more?
This fear comes out of your loss.  Parenting is a difficult task, and most parents don’t want to share the privilege.  Please understand that the desire your child must understand their identity is not about you.
Can I risk attachment?
Especially in foster care/adoption, the process segmented into multiple visits, undermines your confidence.  There is no guarantee the child will remain in your home and putting everything into this relationship, hurts if it does not come to fruition.

Blended Families

blended family

There are all types of blended families.  Your family may have stepparents with biological children who all come together and form a new family.  You may be a married couple that has had biological children and decides to adopt or foster care a child that needs a home, thereby increasing the number of children in your family. 

The fact that these children are now all under the same roof, and other long-term relationships that have been disrupted by the change can be rewarding or challenging. 

 

      1. Parents can facilitate attachment, understand development, and outline a progressive program to improve communication and relationships.
      2. Preparing all parties with Strengths-Based Parenting Assessment helps parents identify techniques based on the characteristics you value and talents that your adoptee exhibits and enhance awareness of skills within biological children.
      3. Coaching and consulting support accountability and emphasize transparent communication style through strategies that you develop to secure optimal emotional
      4. One of the most prevalent issues can entail sibling rivalry. This factor magnifies when related others come together in one family home.
      5. As parents, you may have legal disputes, financial difficulties, or scheduling conflicts. Developing a strategy to overcome these triggers can increase the new families ability to communicate effectively and create a stronger bond.
All services include my preparation and any follow-up documentation that arises out of our session.  Spot phone calls and emails that are relevant to the topic in which we have enlisted.  Price also includes time to research and equip you with the best information available.  Compiling records, assessment score, and reports relevant to the service you enlist.

AWESOME CLIENTS

Cindy Schmelzenbach

Sharon is a competent coach who genuinely cares about me as a client and the progress that I value.  She has invited me to new perspectives while challenging me to "face the music" when that's what's needed.

She is a safe place to process, offers an invitation to new thinking, and is always quick to acknowledge and affirm my progress.

Dionne Roberts

When we first started working together, I needed help with low self-esteem and self-worth. In my opinion, my situation was not unique. I was looking for answers in all the wrong places. Now that I have made great leaps (with Sharon’s help) I can now say, "Thank you, for not giving me a straight answer."

The journey was not easy but well worth taking. I had to forgive myself for putting my job over my family’s needs and seek forgiveness from them.  I would recommend your practice to others because you have a way of helping others see hidden areas of conflict and or unresolved issues, which in my opinion is a gift for seeing what’s not spoken.

Mary Ellen Torres

Sharon coached me regarding how I felt about re-entering the world of dating, choosing a niche for my coaching business, and about various challenges I've had in keeping my life balanced between work and non-work in the past few years.

She is a patient person, yet she asks questions that challenge me and help me see new answers for my dilemmas.  Sharon is ready to rejoice over even small victories and has been a great coach and encourager for me in the past few years.  I highly recommend her as a coach!

Michelle Soggs

Sharon was my coach for helping me motivate students to learn who was unmotivated.  It was very helpful because I had some difficult cases.

She encouraged me to examine my tactics and think outside the box, so to speak.  Her line of questioning broken down barriers and I was able to make a lot of headway.  I also solicited support from other colleagues to help me implement new ideas.

I learned a lot in the process and discovered how a coach really does impact your ability to attain your goals.  I am forever grateful and I would recommend her as a resource for change.

Chris Heinz

Sharon is very passionate and knowledgeable about adoption-related issues. In addition, she takes a strengths approach to parenting and tackling adoption-related issues. I really appreciate her expertise and steadiness--that's what you want when there's so much uncertainty in adoption. I heartily recommend Sharon if you're considering adoption, have started the adoption process or are post-adoption.

Adoption is Complicated.....

Free Assessment tool to uncover your adoption expectations.