Welcome to a road less traveled because most grow-up to adulthood with their birth parents.

I relate to biological children because I am an adoptee who has given birth to three children.  It’s commonly said that there are two sides to every story.  Some adopted adults enjoy a beautiful life as children and become mature integrated adults who are excellent parents to their children, enjoy fulfilling careers and life long-term marriages. The other side of the story appears as a sense of loss, when deprived in childhood, adults of adoption display characteristics of diminished development.

According to a *study completed over a 10 year timeframe, people of adoption were four times more likely to attempt suicide over their peers, who were not adopted.  One undiscussed missing bond between the child and the parent within the adoption relationship, represents a thread to a missing link.  For example, I recall noticing simple things,  like my adoptive parents outward expression of happiness being different from mine.  I laughed hardly and they would just smile.  I thought, “I wonder how my real parents would act.  Do they laugh the same way I do?”

I’m very thankful to have had a wonderful home as I achieved physical and emotional satisfaction.  The primary reason was that my parents taught me how to have faith.  I sincerely feel that faith, at the core of my life has kept me from depression.  Overlooking a sense of wellbeing and belonging can manifest in various unhealthy ways, should it go unnoticed.

Suicide Prevention Lifeline provides the following risk factors:

Personality Disorders
Alcohol and Substance Disorders
Hopelessness
Impulsive and/or Aggressive Tendencies
History of Trauma or Abuse
Family History of Suicide
Loss of Relationship
Easy Access to Lethal Means
Local Cluster of Suicide
Lack of Social Support and Sense of Isolation
Stigma Associated with Asking for Help
Lack of access to Health Services
Cultural and Religious Beliefs
Exposure to Others who have Died

Options To Step Into Something New

The listed symptoms develop awareness about suicidal tendencies.  Other protective factors may help with people considering suicide such as; parents, associates or friends to help someone at risk identify the need for professional assistance. Significant therapeutic involvement may help the recovery process from a painful life experience.  Once resolution occurs and the person is capable of pursuing a typical lifestyle, there is a need to stay intentional and accountable.  At this stage a life coach could become a relevant resource to avoiding repetition of past behavior.

I understand this journey; because, I experienced childhood adoption at the age of 9 months.  Children’s Home Society is no longer a practicing adoption agency. Founded over 125 years ago, their long-term experience positioned this organization as a pioneer, in the adoption system.  Today they offer helpful podcasts on Self-Esteem which are especially helpful to parents, adoption professionals and caregivers.

I offer services to help you find relevance in an ever-changing world.  Together we will go on a journey to unveil your vision to assess values, strengths and perspectives.  You will gain insight, create clarity and find purpose.  If you would like more information please feel free to contact:

Sharon Obazee
Coaching to Impact
sharon@coachingtoimpact.com

Let’s discuss your current situation and discover your potential together.

*(www.ncbi.nim.nihgov/pmc/articles/PMC3784288)