2019 provided so many learning experiences!
I learned how to listen to my family and friends. I, at times, interrupt people (especially those closest to me) mid-sentence. In this regard, there have been so many challenges with trying to speak or give input to a discussion before I forget what I was saying, that I speak up before they reach their conclusion.
I have missed most of the sto
ry because of my impatience. It’s been a treasured learning experience to keep my mouth shut and be patient.
I also learned to persevere over my lack of confidence. This attitude surpasses many of my other characteristics because, if I had not achieved this mindset, I would not have reached the rewards realized which place my mission to serve those who have been impacted by adoption.
I experienced several setbacks that left me feeling defeated when my effort to begin writing through a Kickstarter campaign did not achieve 100% funding. Little did I know that there was another plan for me; moreover, most of the time, it’s not about me anyway.
I learned to accept people on their terms. This lesson was my heartbreaking because it wounded my heart and fractured my life long fantasy. All my life before my reunion, I dreamed of meeting my biological family and what our bonding would mean to everyone. Relationships can become hazardous, even toxic with people we befriend when disappointment arrives to sever your connection.
I lost my bio-father on January 1, 2020, after a short 15-month engagement. Before losing him, I also lost connection with most of his children, who preferred to disregard me and my life. 
To counter this severed relationship, my biological maternal siblings were very receptive open-hearted, and they opened the door to their memories and experiences with my mother and opened my heart to embrace her.
I am shifting in 2020 to incorporate learned lessons.
I am patient.
I am pleased with this manifestation because it has brought me to a more comprehensive experience with my clients. I have learned not to hear the words, but understand the encounter they are presenting through thorough observation.
I resolved to persevere.
I am working with an organization that has introduced me to ifundwomen.com. This funding organization not only assists with the asset to support your business, but they also provide crowdfunding support for special projects. They have no limited amount of funding. Every cent goes to the person who developed the campaign.
Take a look at my video and let me know what you think – looking forward to your response. I have not given up on writing; I intend to give a brief overview of the content I will be discussing as I tell my story. Please leave your comments in the section below.
I am moving forward into acceptance.
This journey has brought me to a place of acceptance, meaning I have learned to accept what I grew up with, and what I have and expect nothing. We came into this world with nothing, but every last one of us was seeking love. We were not conscious of this at the time because we were infants. We were looking for the one who kept us invitro for nine months. Some were fortunate enough to have that natural expectation met, but others like myself were not because we were adopted.
I accept the fact that I am adopted and raised by strangers. It is not my happy place, but it is my reality. I accept the fact that my parents missed the mark on what it would take to raise adopted children because they lacked knowledge about abandonment. They did their best to parent, just as I have done my best to parent my biological children.
I accept the experience I had in my reunion as a hurtful period in my life. It imploded my fantasy. This fantasy was a significant gain. I have come to a place of peace with all of my unmet expectations. I resonate with my mission to help adopted children while serving the adoptive parents. This journey has given me the awareness to pursue my purpose, and I accept this responsibility.
